To Love, Honor, and Betray

A provocative look at the lives of 26 married suburban women, offering a fascinating and nuanced portrait of marriage and infidelity.

Extramarital affairs are often whispered about behind closed doors. In this groundbreaking book, the doors open. Stephanie Gertler and Adrienne Lopez take an intimate and sensitive look at the lives of 26 married or previously married women who have either had an affair, are having an affair, or are wrestling with their conflicting emotions and loyalties as they consider the possibility of being unfaithful to their husbands.

The women are between the ages of 35 and 70. They hail from various cultures, races, professions, and economic levels. Most have children. Many crave passion, intimacy, conversation, romance. And when those things aren’t forthcoming in their marriages, they seek them elsewhere. To Love, Honor, and Betray never judges: It provides candid conversations, rendering women’s lives in ways that are surprising and moving, while offering remarkable insight into the complexity of long-term relationships. It’s the book that women have been waiting for.